Dear Expectant Mother,
We can’t imagine how emotional and stressed you feel. We have never been in your situation, but we have thought about you and worried for you. We are proud parents to two 13-year-old boys who were adopted from another country and we feel they are a testament to the beauty of adoption. One thing we always tell people about being adoptive parents is that we get the gift of watching our children grow and discover their own talents and passions.
We don’t have any preconceived ideas that they should be like us or like what we like. It is so fun to see them discover an interest and then help them learn and explore. Through our boy's interests we have learned a lot about science, technology, music and history, things we probably would not have explored as much ourselves. They enrich our lives with their interests and we marvel in watching them grow.
We are very excited to have a little girl. When our boys were younger, they loved trips to the Children's Museum and the zoo. We are excited to visit those places again and experience them through a little girls eyes. We are also a huge Disney family! Most of our family vacations are to Disney World. Sarah loves planning the trips and everyone else enjoys the food, rides and pools. We take vacations once or twice a year because it offers us time together as a family. Other family activities we enjoy include spring planting of flowers and vegetables in the garden each spring, swimming in the summer, apple picking in the fall and of course decorating for Christmas in the winter. Now that Alex and Andrew are older, we also go to the gym and workout together and trying new foods and restaurants. Some things we are so excited to do with a little girl are tea parties, doll houses, dress up, soccer, swimming and art. If you choose our family, you can be confident that your daughter will have the most loving big brothers in the world and she can follow all of her passions.
We want to assure you that we respect whatever level of openness and contact that you want to have with your child. Please feel confident that you will be a valued member of our family and that time and distance will never be an issue. We believe that any adoption plan should be flexible. You may want different levels of contact or visits and we are happy to facilitate your wants and needs.
We hope you have people around you that can offer you support. Life is so hard and we need to help each other get through the tough times. This is another area we know so much about. Before we adopted our boys, we had a son and then a daughter, but they were both born with a genetic disorder and passed away the same day they were born. It was heartbreaking in a way words cannot express, but we got through the sadness and grief with the support of family and friends. We hope you have this type of support and if you don’t, please consider seeking a support group, it is too hard to go through tough times alone.
Take care of yourself and know that we are thinking of you and hoping and praying you find peace.
After viewing our profile, if you’d like to get to know us better, we’d love for you to visit our blog: www.terrysarahadopt.wordpress.com
Terry and Sarah