Dear Expectant Mother,
Your decision to choose adoption may be the most difficult decision you have had to make at this stage in your life. We cannot imagine how difficult it is to entrust others to raise your child. We are truly thankful that you are considering placing your child in our care. Know that your child will be raised in a loving family.
Shortly after getting married, we began our journey to expand our family. After unsuccessful infertility treatments, this did not dampen our desire for a child and we turned to adoption to fulfill those desires. We have other family members that have used adoption for their families and have watched as these families have happily grown and flourished. While we feel we have so much to offer a child, this cannot compare to what your child will give us as we complete our family. We will love and nurture your child as if he/she were our own.
Family is important to both of us. Although Huili’s family resides in China, the power of the internet and social media allow us to remain in contact with them in between annual visits. Wayne comes from a large family: 10 brothers and sisters, 19 nieces and nephews, and 3 great nieces. Your child will be warmly welcomed with open arms by a large, supportive group of people.
Huili and I are both college graduates, although in vastly different fields. Huili has a PhD in Humanities and is a college professor; Wayne has a Bachelor’s of Science in Engineering. See, opposites do attract. We feel a child will benefit greatly by having parents with such diverse backgrounds. As college graduates, education is very important to both of us. We will ensure our child makes the most of all educational opportunities available to them. We will strive to provide a vast variety of experiences for the child as he or she determines their life’s dreams and goals. As parents, we will actively support their interests and goals and help guide them through life’s journey.
We are fortunate to live in a beautiful home in semi-rural New England in a tight-knit community with our golden retriever. There are plenty of children in the neighborhood so your child will have lots of playmates. We enjoy outdoor activities, such as hiking, and are lucky to have several trails close to us to enjoy at a moment’s notice. We are also close enough to metropolitan areas (Worcester and Boston) that we can also enjoy activities such as visits to museums and zoos, concerts and sporting events. When the weather does not permit outdoor activities, we enjoy reading a good book. Sitting down and reading with a child will add a lot of enjoyment to this activity. With Huili’s family in another country, your child will get the advantage of international travel and the opportunity to experience other cultures. We look forward to sharing all of these activities with your child as we help shape their life. As he or she develops their own interests, we will strongly encourage their participation in those activities.
While we do not know the circumstances that lead you to the decision to consider placing your child with another family, we all have the same the same goal: to have the child raised in a loving, stable environment with every opportunity for them to reach their full potential. We hope that this letter gives you the peace of mind that your child will be raised with a good family and allow you to pursue your life’s ambitions.
Huili and Wayne